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Is accepting and forgetting (bitterness of life) the same thing...? can continual bitterness be forgotten...? what's the best way to deal with it...?

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Asked by minati vishwakarma, 03 Oct '09 12:41 am
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If you treat every situation as a life and death matter, you'll die a lot of times. Dean Smith, American Basketball Coach
"If you can't forget the past, the future will not happen."
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. - Mahatma Gandhi, 1869-1948
No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change. Barbara De Angelis, American Author and Expert on Relationships and Personal Growth
FINALLY
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. Carl Jung, 1875-1961, Swiss Psychiatrist
Answered by PANIWALA A, 07 Oct '09 11:44 pm

 
  
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Inculcate the quality ----forget and forgive. This will help one to over come bitterness.
Answered by Good Citizen, 03 Oct '09 07:58 pm

 
  
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You know very the difference between accepting and attaching.
by accepting but not remembring may end in forgetting.
but attaching with bitterness(continual bitterness) can't be forgotten.
the ultimate formnula is being aware of the fact/truth or taking it easily is enough.never attach /dettach with the incident
Answered by bhanwar bothra, 04 Oct '09 12:51 pm

 
  
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Looks like the bitterness has become the way of life . But any way the solution lies in our mind n intellect . Once the impulse of bitterness enters into our mind giving an assent (assenting ) is painful ....creates a bondage ...difficult to sustain . The next best thing is to imagine it in some form (imaginative) n try to assess its impact in future which is again painful n liable to create a bondage . The most acceptable solution lies in having a discerning mind ( the power to discriminate by which it knows that it is tranisitory ) which just watches the happening go past with passage of time (drashta bhaav ) n see that it does not accept or imagine as in above two cases . Here the bondage of bitterness will not be there n will not be painful too . Pls note that the bondage of bitterness is responsible for future pains .
Answered by sk singh, 04 Oct '09 12:35 pm

 
  
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I think bitterness can be sidelined, but cannot be forgotten. The best way is to sideline them,and keep good things at front line. That way we give less pain to ourselves.
Answered by subhash, 03 Oct '09 08:34 pm

 
  
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Accepting bitterness is something that we need to learn to live with. We can't just ignore the bitterness of life. But at the same time we need to knwo how to move ahead in life with all the bitterness.
Forgetting a bitterness - well I never forget that, rather I remember those bitter days and people who caused bitterness - spcially when it is continuous bitterness. Gorgive the poeple, but never forget the bietterness.

Move on in life leaving behind the bitterness , dont spend time or ponder on those bitterness , there are plenty of other things in life that has higher priorities and concentrate on them.
Answered by Krish Dey, 03 Oct '09 12:53 am

 
  
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Continual bitterness rakhna achhi baat nahin hai maano jaise usse pura maahaul zehrila n polluted lagta hai.....kisi ki bhul ko apna ke maan na aur usse samjaa ke dobara na kare aisa commitment leke we can start new innings....waise bhi kshama denewaala hi mahaan hota hai........
Answered by krunal modi, 03 Oct '09 12:45 am

 
  
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Accepting or forgetting, the fact remains unchanged that one eventually has to live with it, either going through it or burying it deep within the heart.
But, accepting would imply that the person will always be strong enough to confront the bitter fact with no qualms to remember the sweet past. Forgetting would mean he would never want to think of those things and cause more agony to himself.
It all depends on the strength and comfort level of a person. Not everyone is the same, that remains true to each and every second question. We do what we feel is the best for our happiness. One has to think if he can live with the pain or forget about it in a bid to go ahead in the path of life.
Answered by praveen, 03 Oct '09 12:45 am

 
  
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Ignore and look forward ....
Answered by Praveen Kapur, 03 Oct '09 12:43 am

 
  
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A lot of effort is required...we have to sortout the problem that creating the bitterness....else a lot of effort is required...and the path is difficult....
Answered by Satyakam Nayak, 03 Oct '09 12:43 am

 
  
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