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What Kills a Marriage and How Can You Change It?

Asked by neera bhatt, 06 Jun '09 02:00 pm
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There is one thing that can truly kill a marriage and that is when you lose those "feelings" of love.The best thing you can do is act lovingly towards your partner.think of it this way: Love is not a feeling, it is an action.
Answered by Amit k, 06 Jun '09 10:36 pm

 
  
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Frankly speaking I don't believe one single reason responsible behind this. On the surface it appears, mis-understanding and lack of communication are the reasons. But scratching beneath the surface one finds many reasons. In my opinion there the problem or reasons varying from class to class in terms of economic condition and education.
Let us first thing about the poor (economically) class. The marriage problem starts with poverty, lack of subsistence materials like food and clothes. The problem then compounds with temptations coming from those who like to exploit the hapless woman or the teen-aged daughters. The mother, in order to arrange for 2 square meals and clothing for the children do not hesitate to anchor in the new port. The men-folks basically idle or drink- addicts squander away their little income neglecting the children and also falling prey to the urge of sense no.1. In this class the women suffer a lot to keep alive their marriages. Even they put up with the sec ...more
Answered by soumyen sarkar, 07 Jun '09 12:56 pm

 
  
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Lack of - mutual respect, love, space, understanding kills a marriage.

How can u change it - dont know, as it is tough

mostly people accept it as their fate due to social /moral fear
Answered by shashi, 06 Jun '09 02:05 pm

 
  
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Ego !!
Answered by makrand samvatsar, 06 Jun '09 02:04 pm

 
  
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Lack of understanding and ego.Try to avoid thease.
Answered by krishna bhojwani, 06 Jun '09 02:04 pm

 
  
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Doubts.. should not doubt your partner..Love is the best medicine although it is difficult in marriage life.. but u have to give preference and respect to your partner !!
Answered by Ramesh Mistry, 06 Jun '09 02:39 pm

 
  
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Distrust
Answered by Dinesh C S, 06 Jun '09 02:07 pm

 
  
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De say "SHAK"
try to spend as much time 2gather as u can(also maintain space). gain confidence honestly. And always do something together like having morning tea 2gather or cooking 2gather or any thing like tht. Such small event brings lots of love and happyness and smoothness between couple.
Answered by pulkit kanjilal, 06 Jun '09 02:06 pm

 
  
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There is one thing that can truly destroy your life/marriage and that is when you lose those "feelings" of love. Many times when couples file for divorce, the reason cited is "I just don't love my spouse anymore." So what can you do to stop that from happening? Better yet, what can you do to fix it if you already find yourself in that situation? The best thing you can do is to start acting lovingly towards your partner. Does this sound completely crazy? If so, think of it this way: Love is not a feeling, it is an action.
Respond in kind ways, without sarcasm, anger, yelling or disrespect in any way. Simply put, be polite and nice in the words and tone of voice you use. This could be a drastic change if you and your spouse are at the stage of making snide or disrespectful, off hand comments to each other. This will be noticed immediately.

2. Regularly compliment and verbally show your appreciation to your partner. It is easy to point out the negative, so instead, focus on seeing the ...more
Answered by anil garg, 09 Nov '10 10:18 pm

 
  
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Expenses on that
Answered by Shiva, 23 Apr '10 03:59 pm

 
  
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