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Am 23 year old. and also married from past 7 months. my husband loves me a lot and i too love him. But our sex relation ship is too bad. we used to have sex in the week end. but now a days it will happen very rarely (month). But my husband get errection he will not have sex. plz tell me wt could be the reason. i love him a lot, he loves me a lot. Even i cont talk with him. guys plz tell if wife talk frankly about sex wt u guys think, plz help me out

Asked by swathi, 09 Oct '08 07:39 pm
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As sexual inclinations vary with every individual, the bride and the bridegroom will have to display patience with each other. Sexual union on the first night of marriage is not the most important thing between the couple.
Their first intimate association gives them an opportunity to know each other more closely, to assess each other's feelings and attitudes.
With some brides excitement, expectations or fear of intimate union brings about a reluctance in performing sexual union. The bridegroom should regard this moment as an opportunity to show his consideration for her tender feelings, to demonstrate that sex is a secondary aspect of marriage and that her health and feelings mean more to him.
Sometimes, out of bashfulness or consideration for the brides feelings, the groom may also show reluctance to be sexually intimate. Then it is the bride's turn to display her appreciation and tolerance towards him.
Armed with the legal and moral permission to have sex with his wife, a man w ...more
Answered by PANIWALA A, 09 Oct '08 09:43 pm

 
  
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Ask him directly...ask him to tell u the problem nd why is he behaving like tht ...is he alright. may be there is something he is hiding ..tell him u wont be tensed and wont leave him if he tells u ...he should trust u
Answered by Sahil, 09 Oct '08 09:33 pm

 
  
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You frankly tell him that your sex desire remains unfulfilled and you need it more and want sexual satisfaction also
Answered by paresh ghoshal, 09 Oct '08 08:33 pm

 
  
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Marry another
Answered by RajenderReddyIICT, 09 Oct '08 07:40 pm

 
  
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Yes
go ahead
talk sex
be the active sex partner
let him come out of his shell
Answered by alok goel, 18 Oct '11 11:16 pm

 
  
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Talk to him,discuss freely
stimulate him do lot of sexual foreplay
Answered by anil garg, 16 Feb '11 05:40 pm

 
  
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Try to consult a good physician about your hubby's problem.The doctor will give agood guidance.
Answered by AMIT, 10 May '10 07:19 am

 
  
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You must first ask him and then go to a doctor.
Answered by kamini joshi, 05 Mar '10 11:06 am

 
  
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You frankly tell him that your sex desire remains unfulfilled and you need it more and want sexual satisfaction. or else find some like me who can satisfy u more than ur hubby i m even unsatisfied with my wife so can v go ahead?
Answered by Jayesh Andhari, 18 Oct '08 04:30 pm

 
  
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Don't worry. Try to consult with a doctor. And one more think, If he is not ready for penetrative sex you can ask for fingering and a good foreplay. Go on a vacation and change place can give u a better intemacy.
Answered by sibasankar nayak, 14 Oct '08 07:59 am

 
  
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