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Death in Indian society turns out to be a very costly affair for the decendants of the dead person.The pundits spare no opportunity to suck the last rupee out of their pocket in the name of different customs and donations, to bless the dead.And after that the meal to all the relatives & friends.People realize they are being fleeced but cannot protest and suffer badly.Can we not change the customs so that the kin of the dead are not subjected to a serious bankruptcy and mental tension?No offence meant to anyone's religious feelings!

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Asked by HEMANT MEHTA, 22 Jul '10 10:16 pm
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It is really most unfortunate that people think like they are in 16th century, when they tried to hang Copernicus and likes of Galileo for telling the truth. Premchand, decades earlier wrote in details about these maladies in our society. I hope we all have read Godan and umpteen number of stories in his Mansarovar collection where he exposed these Ponga Pundits. Being a Doctor, with full scientific temparaments, I myself feel helpless when I see near dears arguing adamantly on such practices in the name of our great traditions and culture, knowing fully that this is merely filling the kitty of unscrupulous elements. Let us see reason, realise the Truth and behave rationally, then only we can hope some change. Thanks for a very good question on such important issue.
Answered by subhash tiwari, 24 Jul '10 08:41 am

 
  
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In capitalistic world everyone has right to earn money.
We can't object either a doctor nor a priest in this mad race.
We better suffer in silence.
After all, custom is our own creation.
Sorry.
Answered by Prakash Chandra, 23 Jul '10 12:26 am

 
  
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But that is the tradition- we can't change that 'Just forget that for a moment; Have u ever tried to get a body after PotsMartem fm teh hospital -How much money is spent there-This is the Biggest bane of this country-Police is not our saviours but suckers- God Bless India Jai Hind Mera Bharat Mahan
Answered by SriniVenkat, 22 Jul '10 10:31 pm

 
  
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A poor person can marry his daughter in money equal to spent on death :D
Answered by Redif User, 22 Jul '10 10:22 pm

 
  
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Yes u are right especially in Hindus I have seen many families borrowing money from money lender for death ceromonies at very high interest rates but it is written in shastras if u feed one cow that is equalivent to feeding 100 ppl so instead of feeding pandit and relatives it is better to donate money to some orphanage or old age home I think it will more punya than performing any yagna or feeding 100 brahmins
Answered by Satya Pandey, 23 Jul '10 09:36 am

 
  
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Those who believe in the blessings and SADGATI of the ancestors perform all sort of rituals. No pandit knocks at our doors to compel us to do. What ever is your budget you can do it. More than pandits, it is a social custom to offer meals. Pandits only perform rituals in Allahabad or at any other sacred confluence after the remnants of the deceased persons ashes are washed.
I have in my neighbour on 80 year old gentleman, who was an advocate in High court, his one brother dean of an Agl. university, one sister principal, other sister too, one brother and a sister were not employed. All died youngster did except himself. He is brahmin and was a with Vinoba ji. A very learned man. All brothers and sister were unmarried. All purchased books for hundred of rupees every months. He has his own library worth lakhs of rupees, also the terminal benefits after retirement of his siblings is many lakh. But he did not go anywhere nor at his age he had strength to do alone, did nothing. Even ashes ...more
Answered by Om Shrivastava, 13 Sep '10 08:39 pm

 
  
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We can
we may
just disregard what others may say
Answered by anil garg, 11 Sep '10 11:17 pm

 
  
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An excellent observation, really we have to change the long old some of the customs to lead a good life in the present society
Answered by jameel ahmed, 30 Jul '10 04:37 pm

 
  
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Ye apni shradha(marji) hoti he mehta g brahamins hathiyaro ke bal per paise nahi lete.dene walo dena band kar do.u know when india beat austrailiya in test series on their country make history first time in india 7 were brahamins out of 11 indian players.it is a little branch for these rituals.i think,they r not for their choice in actually they r due to other cast choice.
Answered by manish vats, 29 Jul '10 11:55 pm

 
  
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Why we stick to old traditions and listen pundits do according to arya samaj with having a havan only.
Answered by Ramesh Agarwal, 23 Jul '10 08:40 pm

 
  
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