I am an active listener & a selective speaker.

"There was an old owl who sat in an oak.
The more he watched; the less he spoke.
The less he spoke; the more he heard.
Why can't we be like that wise old bird?"
That's an interesting hoot that deserves some pondering.
One of the biggest causes of stressed or broken relationships is ineffective communication. Both people speak, but nobody sits quietly, watches, and listens.
"He (or she) just doesn't listen to me!"
Maybe this is "normal" in society. However, when I look at statistics on marital breakdown, family violence, employee retention and satisfaction, workplace stress, and mediation battles, it helps me to recognize that I don't want to be "normal." I'd rather be different -- stand out on a positive, effective limb, like the owl.
Here are my easy "observant-owl" strategies, and I challenge you to apply these too. Naturally, it's your choice, just as it is mine.
* Attention focus on the other person. Set aside all other thoughts and actions. Avoid distractions: other pe ...more

I prefer to listen patiently.

Listener first then speaker.

Good Speaker and good Listner tooo !! I am of the opinion that Good Listener can become a Good Speaker !! : ))

Good,patient ,intent listener

I am a good listener so much so that I know the inner meaning of what the other person is trying to convey. Once this established I try to express my views to the best of my ability to convince him / her .Good listener always comes with his / her reply in a measured way . A good speakear has to have sound knowledge of the field he / she is supposed to speak and also how to impress the audience . It is not very easy for all .

I can play both the role with ease

A good listener......

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