What are you? A good listener or a good speaker?
The more he watched; the less he spoke.
The less he spoke; the more he heard.
Why can't we be like that wise old bird?"
That's an interesting hoot that deserves some pondering.
One of the biggest causes of stressed or broken relationships is ineffective communication. Both people speak, but nobody sits quietly, watches, and listens.
"He (or she) just doesn't listen to me!"
Maybe this is "normal" in society. However, when I look at statistics on marital breakdown, family violence, employee retention and satisfaction, workplace stress, and mediation battles, it helps me to recognize that I don't want to be "normal." I'd rather be different -- stand out on a positive, effective limb, like the owl.
Here are my easy "observant-owl" strategies, and I challenge you to apply these too. Naturally, it's your choice, just as it is mine.
* Attention focus on the other person. Set aside all other thoughts and actions. Avoid distractions: other pe ...more