No matter how hard you try to protect them, kids are barraged with sexuality and sexual messages. And no matter how careful you are about what your preteen is exposed to, your son or daughter may see a TV show or hear a song on the radio, or see two people on the bus that sparks questions about sex. So, how do you talk to them about it?
If your preteen asks a specific question related to sex, first ask why he is asking that question. That gives you an idea where he is coming from and will guide you to answer that specific question.
Use scientifically correct names for body parts and give clear, straightforward explanations (this probably isn't a good time to flaunt your knowledge of slang.) Look your child straight in the eye when you talk to her.
Spot teachable moments.
You can bring up sexuality when there is a TV news story about AIDS, the debate over gay marriage, the new Human Papilloma Virus vaccine or when there are sexual innuendoes on a TV show. A pregnancy or birth in the family can also be a good time for you to take the lead to teach your child "where babies come from." Or, if your child sees sexual behaviors in pets or animals mating in the zoo (or on the bus), and your child asks about it, turn it into a teachable moment. Sometimes kids use words with sexual overtones and they don't know
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Talk to them Mrs. Anju Chauhan, best way to defend ur kinds is ATTACK. Teach them love not lust. They need adequate education rather than blue films. If you cant talk, let your hubby do that, if not your friends (especially ladies) do that. You cant stop them watching the world all over. Atleast you can teach them the sense of being a LADY/GENTLEMAN. I think you have not tried in these lines. Donot try to control forcibly with the teens. It will back fire. Tread the way in between. Its difficult but hey "in life what is easy"