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When and how does a virtual friend graduate to a real freind for you?

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Asked by Mitali Choudhury, 28 Oct '09 03:19 pm
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Only if I meet that virtual friend, we see each other, share our meals together, know each others family, share each others joys and sorrows, and shake each others hand then only I would say that the virtual friend has graduated to be a real friend for me.
Answered by Jack Johnson, 28 Oct '09 03:43 pm

 
  
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There is something special in some relations, it starts from a spark and then becomes a fire...Time is an important factor in making a god friendship happen. It is not like there are only a few good virtual friends. Sometimes we may not be even knowing about some nice people, they may not be in our destiny.
When we are really in bad mood and suddenly we are getting a helping hand, may be just a friendly smile, an inspiring message...we will be attracted to that new face (here it is just an ID)...who got a similar thinking mind, interests and even attitude. We will be naturally interested to know more about him/her through her questions, answers and messages. With daily interactions the friendship grows...and we will soon be exchanging even personal data like email ID, phone number and other things. We will even feel free to discuss anything frankly and to take liberty with him/her so that we can tease him/her with funny leg pullings. Nobody will be hurt or there won't be any misunde ...more
Answered by Muktha Radhakrishnan, 28 Oct '09 06:33 pm

 
  
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Somewhere from the doubtful beginnings to a closer interaction on the forum to a compatibility of thoughts/ideas/ thinking etc, it graduates to a more personal level, where the initial foundations are laid by means of more personal interactions initially by way of mails. I guess some where, we use that sixth sense or instinctive gut feeling, to put our trust and faith in someone, till now an unknown persona. It could happen gradually as well as suddenly. And from there it develops to a higher level than the ordinary.

In the intervening period, we would know whether it has sustainabilty or not, because not all relationships that one does get to establish sees through the 'plateau' phase where it can be carried forward with the same enthusiasm as it was at the beginning. Some of them toss around like a leaky boat which is about to sink and one knows in the heart of hearts, that it is doomed to collapse more for reasons of any lack of honesty in such a relationship and one cannot carry ...more
Answered by Omega, 31 Oct '09 08:22 pm

 
  
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Frankly, virtual friendship may not last and may end without any reason.
Virtual friendship turns into real friendship when there is a meeting of minds. This happens when we meet face to face several times, understanding and developing trust with each other.
With someone you can depend on without any hesitation.
Answered by mohanbirsingh ghura, 29 Oct '09 07:17 pm

 
  
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When u start trusting ur virtual friends more than urself,,,,,, a bond of understanding is maintained between both
Answered by SHEETAL, 29 Oct '09 05:35 pm

 
  
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When u start recognising the fact that you can share ur feelings wid no boundaries ( though u dont need to exchange or share everything) with the person by way of ur association of months or years , a virtual friend may graduate to a real friend...I strongly feel that ther is no mandaory requirement of physical meeting at all...I always believe in the fact that if one writes a false story of pages, make no mistake, he/she will be caught in the very first pages of the book....
Answered by bijoy agarwala, 28 Oct '09 08:08 pm

 
  
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I think it wud be difficult to pinpoint exactly when the transition occurs. Just as in real life we dont become friends with everyone we meet...even here we interact with few who we have an instinctive connection to. With some, we are like mere acquaintances sharing pleasantaries with some others...we go a bit further and wish to know more abt them not just because we like the way they write or interact in Q&A but there is something unexplicable that links us to them. Once the bond is established virtually...they are as good as real friends. Because friendship is friendship..either virtual or real.....we care and share just as real friends.... only the dynamics differ but the emotions are real.....we are just sitting on either side of a monitor and not in person. I may not know everything abt u that a real friend wud know but i do care abt u just as real friend would....so does that make me any less real and more virtual?
Answered by sumitha, 28 Oct '09 07:21 pm

 
  
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When "Faith" replaces the doubts about the virtual internet friendships. I personally believe that the risk of misuse of personal information on internet is similar to the information shared during a long train journey. No one gives wring information like names during journeys. They even share the cards with the strangers. Can't there be frauds there?

So, trust and faith help one graduate from virtual to real.

Now in this time of email and all the communication tools, even real friends and relatives stay connected over emails. So it's OK to remain in touch over virtual networks, even for real friends or virtual friends after becoming real friends.
Answered by manish varma, 28 Oct '09 06:03 pm

 
  
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When the trust develops and nature matches.
Answered by krishna bhojwani, 28 Oct '09 03:22 pm

 
  
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This may not happen with me, such is my nature. I take friendship very seriously.
Answered by kishore malhotra, 28 Oct '09 03:22 pm

 
  
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