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The Bhattacharya couple are fighting their battle against the Norwegian authorities to get back their two toddlers. The brother of Mr. Bhattacharyya, a Kolkata based dentist is receiving counseling and training in Stavanger Norway as to how children should be raised. What is your take on this issue. Can you piece together the whole story ?

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Asked by soumyen sarkar, 09 Mar '12 12:20 pm
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In most of the developed nations of the world and this includes Norway, they have Child Protection or Welfare Agencies who on complaint from someone or on their own inquire about the welfare of the children. If the parents are constantly fighting and in the process ignoring their children or if the children are ignored e.g. not fed properly, not dressed properly, abused and such similar cases, the children are taken into care.
This taking into care is basically to protect the children. Therefore, the parents should be careful in dealing with their children. It is not like in India where many children are beaten up on the smallest pretext, left to beg on the roads and so on.
I do not know exactly what went wrong in the Bhattacharya family. It looks like Mr and Mrs Bhattacharya had some problem between them and that could be a valid reason for the authorities in Norway taking children into care.
If brother of Mr. Bhattacharya is receiving counselling and training how to raise th ...more
Answered by Francisco, 12 Mar '12 01:21 pm

 
  
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It is a case of total difference in culture. I would like to refer a book by Masanobu Fukuoka ' "One straw revolution" that states if even a plant grows through all odds and survive on fighting it becomes of more strength. Likewise in India ( eventually worlds largest cheap labour supplier ) people grows against all odds. West depends mainly on nucleus family ,grand parents /or uncles /or cousins are not the integral part of the family while our Indian culture teaches us to stay together with all the members of the family including grand parent to great grand parents. We have a heritage before the west became civilised. Here in Metro cities I observed some schools are running on western cultural style. Students were denied admission as they stay with grand parents. Peoples are sending their kids to those schools with a target of sending them finally to western countries .While at 'ROME be a ROMAN ' is the proverb and as Bhattacharya family did not taken care of the proverb earlier, the ...more
Answered by Santiranjan Pal, 10 Mar '12 11:17 am

 
  
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Last week a 23 year old Norwegian women was found wandering almost naked with self inflicted cut injuries on her in the streets of Chennai. Volunteers of a NGO, Udhavum Karangal, took her to their center and provided her with suitable help and through the Norwegian embassy in Delhi manged to trace the girls parents in Norway. The girl, Pecil, however refused to speak to her father Shaun because he had deserted her mother when the girl was about 12 years or so. Her mother was also not keen on coming down to India to take her daughter back home. Then the embassy people got in touch with her boyfriend who ultimately came down to Chennai to escort the girl back to Norway. According to her boyfriend Alexander, Pecil had some psychological problem and if anyone called her ugly she turns violent and cuts her hand with a sharp object. Now what kind of parenting training can any Norwegian agency give to an Indian parent when they are not able to give any kind of training or counseling to th ...more
Answered by Shyam, 12 Mar '12 09:48 pm

 
  
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The most bizarre incident I ever came across! It brought to the fore the inability of many nations in Europe to get over the cultural superiority complex and accept the habits and ways of others gracefully. The Norwegian Child Protective Services had the kids from their parents separated (such separation is painful for any Indian parent) after discovering, during an inspection, that they were being fed by hand. That according to the Child Protective Services was force feeding. Also, they shared bed with the parents, which was deemed unacceptable behaviour, as the boys are expected to have separate beds. The Norwegian authority might have deemed it bizarre but in India these are indicators of a well looked after child. If Norway sets special standards for parents of its country to bring up their children, it is nobody's business to complain. However, they should respect other cultures' traditions, habits and lifestyle. Different cultures fix different ways of grooming children. ...more
Answered by sumati gayki, 12 Mar '12 01:46 pm

 
  
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It is a blatant case of riding rough shod over the sentimental attachment of Indian parents to their children by the Norwegian authorities and has brought up the yawning cultural divide in focus.

This in a nation where the authorities appear to be hand in glove with some agencies which are overtly racist in their views and covertly encouraging adoption to get Government aid.

From what has been gathered it appears that the elder child has some psychological problems, but this could be a case where counselling was required, by the child and parents both.Yes agreed that the Father was a professional with extended work hours but are Indian Mothers all that incapable? The fault is there because the father should have found time to take his son to a psychiatrist, but such inhuman behaviour of snatching both the children away--I shudder to think of our status as Indians in those countries.
But a question comes to mind regarding the status of our Government in the western hemisphere. P ...more
Answered by sumita bhadrachaudhari, 12 Mar '12 06:53 am

 
  
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The Child Welfare Society is a powerful organisation in Norway, their actions protected by the Norwegian law. It has to be remembered this is also one of the few countries which allows legal adoption by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender persons. They have their own weird sense of what really child care entails and belong to that category of nations which have a different take on a variety of subjects.

These CWS are supposed to ostensibly there to ensure that, children do not undergo abuse at home, are taken care of well and brought up in a way to make them responsible citizens when they grow up. Now the problem starts here. Norway is no more a homogenous nation, with large scale migrations from former Soviet countries, East Europe, the troubled Arab nations and a mix of other nationalities who are there on work related reasons. The CWS is not manned by people who understand the cultural diversities of these nations and they way these societies bring up their children or handle ...more
Answered by Omega, 11 Mar '12 08:30 pm

 
  
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It is very sad that loveable parents have to be taught about parenting. i have seen families in india , where children are raised on raods and slums and they probably are more healthy and have immunity towards many disease. this way it must be that the western countries must follow the way indians and chines are braught up.
nwo coming to the topic , when the child welfare poked in their nose in indian family , they found the mother feeding with her hand and not with folk or spoon.
what is fail to understand is hand is moer hygeinic and has some properties that are good for health. a folk is peice of steel , though well hygeinic , but must have gone into various mouths , put in wash basin along withother dirt etc.
they have taken the children away causing huge trouble to parents and also small toddlers who miss the love and affection of parents.
i feel saddened and irritated when indian government is not taking concrete stops to unite the children with biological parents. they mus ...more
Answered by Ataur Rahman, 09 Mar '12 12:27 pm

 
  
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