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Acceptance evoked by absolute love can never be conditional,yet relationships are plagued by 'ifs' and 'buts' and so all the blues in the world of romance are suffered.
Your take on the same please.

Asked by shintsie, 03 Jul '09 05:22 pm
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Hi shints....Absolute love IS..But we are not perfect. We can strive to remain committed to perfection.There are course( direction) corrections every now and then. Acceptance takes everything in its stride...ifs and buts. I think that's how it becomes perfect
Answered by sanjay mishra, 05 Jul '09 07:31 pm

 
  
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How can there be conditions if we are talking about love... the ifs and buts are the hiccups one always have while jumping into the swimming pool assuming the depth as well as the coldness of water... but once jumped in... we even wish and tend to reach the depth...
Answered by sanjay sharma, 06 Jul '09 05:50 am

 
  
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Acceptance in love should always be unconditional..after all we love a living creature who thinks and acts on her own, not a robot whom we can direct to do things.. I do not know exactly why relationships are affected by these `ifs` and` buts` then. According to me, the problem lies here that we know what is right and what is wrong but sometimes knowingly we do make expectations from the people who does not deserve this much of importance.. but wen we are in love we do not like to come out of this illusion..This stops us from seeing what is real. Acceptance, is just an option for those people and they will use it for their own convenience. Also, when our needs from any relationship (physical or otherwise) and `the integrity as a person` grows bigger than those we love, the presence of love takes a backseat. We just do not know the price one has to pay for betrayal and abandonment. If we keep only this in our minds, Love can never be miscalculated... :-))
Answered by prashant sharma, 03 Jul '09 10:32 pm

 
  
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Whenever "love" or "romance" is mixed up wid responsibilities, we start feeling that our love towards each other is diminishing , but both the things are different and each of them sud be taken one at a time....agreeing fully, that love has no place for any conditions...putting conditions ruins the beauty of love...thanks for an excellent question...
Answered by bijoy agarwala, 06 Jul '09 12:26 pm

 
  
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Shintz, I know you are a well read person so you do know that Mark Anthony in the equally famous play Julius Caesar starts with a line Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears and that is where the irony of the situation lies because Antony was evoking among them acceptance which was conditional an therefore it was refused by Senate as it was (as you put) plagued by ifs and buts. World of Romance is not at all different from the practical world and this conditional condition leads of affect the relationship. As human beings we are supposed to call ourselves as intelligent creatures; but when it comes to clash with romantic relationship there it gives birth to ego. This ego is nurtured by so many ifs and buts; if one of the twos is sane enough he or she gives total effort to control the hopeless situation by turning these ifs and buts in positive manner, though the acceptances moves at a snail`s space.

Absolute love cannot be conditional. Well, this is rather poetic, Shintz, ...more
Answered by Indra Pawar, 06 Jul '09 12:12 am

 
  
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A question like this is always expected to come from a thoughtful person like you, Ms. Shintsz...

Yes, when I think about the same, I get a brief answer for the same....IT IS THE DEFINITION OF ETHICAL VALUE SYSTEM WHICH RAISES 'ifs' and 'buts' or conditions in relationships.

At recent times, Every family rather every parents have got a different version of ETHICAL VALUE SYSTEM.......WHICH IS FAR FROM ACTUAL TRUTH....so is the effect we can see at their childrens when they exposed to society.....

A few parameters like love, respect, gratefullness, compassion, patience....needs to be re-think by us to elimiate 'ifs' and 'buts' and to get away with all the blues in the world of Love & romance...
Answered by saumen ganguli, 05 Jul '09 07:03 pm

 
  
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Live for love, live for something.Do good,n,leave behind a monument of virtue that stroms timecan never destroy.Write your name in kindness,love,n,mercy on the hearts of 1000s you come in contact.Only our good deeds will shine like stars in the dark night sky !
Answered by UMESH SHARMA, 03 Jul '09 08:59 pm

 
  
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You are wrong. Those ifs and buts keep your love life more live and alive otherwise it will become absolutely monotonous and suffering will be more out of boredom and single routine of I love you (and thats the end).
Answered by nkpathak, 03 Jul '09 05:29 pm

 
  
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Everything is conditional intoday's world. Unconditional love is very very rare!
Answered by Tushar Kher, 03 Jul '09 05:23 pm

 
  
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Thanx for the suggestion.
Answered by Deepika Chakraborty, 03 Jul '09 05:25 pm

 
  
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