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WHY HUMAN BEINGS HAVE A TENDENCY to repeat the same mistakes in relationships ? It means they actually find comfort in such situations ?

Asked by peekay first, 17 Mar '09 11:57 am
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We do repeat the same mistakes over and over again by virtue of the fact that we just don't take the time to learn from the lessons of the first mistake, or the second mistake, or the third.
We as humans are born for the trial and error, fight or flight inclinations..................................Our instincts are not necessarily wrong; we perhaps do not perceive them or understand our instincts or our gut feelings in a positive or correct fashion,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,If we can be true to our own nature and accept our mistakes and make real attempts to understand the sources and actions of our mistakes to begin with, then we have a better idea of how to avoid making the same mistake twice, or thrice!!
Answered by malishka, 17 Mar '09 12:08 pm

 
  
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Those who make mistakes uses phrases as excuss like " aadat se majboor he" , "dil he ki maanta nahi., etc ,etc ,etc.But exactly they actually do find comfort in doing and repeating mistakes.
Answered by Rachana, 17 Mar '09 01:17 pm

 
  
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If one had the tendency to actually repeat the same mistake rather than learn from them, then it means that they have actually not realised this. How can anyone find comfort in such situations, they are agonising sometimes. This happens only because one does open his/her mind to the thought that such mistakes are happening and should not be repeated for the relationship to grow.
Answered by Juliana, 17 Mar '09 12:03 pm

 
  
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Blame it on short-term memory, Ghajini ishtyle.....we KNOW that history repeats itself....we SAY that once bitten twice shy....but our actions say otherwise....and actions after all speak LOUDER than words, na????
Answered by Lion Heart, 17 Mar '09 12:02 pm

 
  
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All are not same. But yes there are few situations where inspite of getting hurt in return, one keeps his/her hope awake to get better response and repeat same mistakes to trust same person or to seek same person's help at times.
Answered by puja gogia, 17 Mar '09 12:00 pm

 
  
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Do you call falling in love again & again a mistake? Than let it be, I find comfort in dreaming about Sen babies- Sushmita, Konkona, Nandana......... :-)
Answered by FriendsRfriends, 17 Mar '09 11:59 am

 
  
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