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The qualities one adores in the other,are oft those one desires in the self...why does the unattainable/the absent appeal more?

Asked by shintsie, 11 Jul '09 01:26 pm
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But Shintiz, personally speaking, certainly I don`t think this is a kind of vice in me (of course, this is not the indication of your question), when I start adoring admirable qualities in other and desire to have at least some of them in me. Your asking led me to mythological period and our ancestors in that era were living with this feeling instilled in them. The term `unattainable` itself is quite significant that we are human in first place and not animal who do not (seemingly) desire to have more than necessary and that too for a single day`s necessity. No mosquito ever tried to suck blood from Miss Shintsie`s body more than his need of the time; because there is no question before him to take more than necessary and deposit the same in his account with a local bank. But this is not the case with ``man`` simply because God made him with those genes which always cry for `Gimme more`` and helplessly he tries to acquire those things rather unattainable to him despite his trials and f ...more
Answered by Indra Pawar, 11 Jul '09 04:01 pm

 
  
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True. But such adorations are temporary and change often. It is the nature of good people to appreciate such qualities wherever they are. And some others do it for adulation.
Answered by sankaran subbiah, 12 Jul '09 11:49 am

 
  
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Everybody has their own aspect as to what makes them human. They all contribute different factors to what made them who they are today. They can name a numerous amount of experiences that have helped them form their sense of identity. We all have our own unique characteristics and personalities that make us different from the next guy. The question is how did we develop these different characteristics and personalities? Were we born with them or did we acquire them? There are two main qualities that contribute to the development of these characteristics and to the nature of us as human beings in general. The first quality is based on the fact that human beings are social creatures. We interact with a large number of people on a daily basis. Our lives are somehow linked to the lives of others. The second quality that contribute to the making of a human being is that we are cultural. We are brought up in an environment that shapes our identity. We are not who we have become to be because ...more
Answered by Sudaru Bahar, 13 Jul '09 11:09 am

 
  
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You are correct. Basically, we adore certain qualities. A person is simply the representation of those qualities and these are the qualities, which we wish to attain ourselves, unless it's superiority complex, where we expect submissive behaviors from others.
Answered by manish varma, 13 Jul '09 08:49 am

 
  
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Shortcoming which commonly found in each of us , wherein , we often take ourselves granted and forget to keep on thanking the creator for wat we have...and d said shortcoming results in having a look on others in disbelief...each of us must understand that we have been blessed with our share of fortunes by Him...and we must appreciate ourselves too for wat we have achieved and attained...
Answered by bijoy agarwala, 12 Jul '09 01:13 pm

 
  
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Ur question makes me ponder ----what's the quality --i am after that now ??
thinking n thinking --------------ummmmmmm
u know Shints ,,,in childhood we make time-table sort of --when to read , when to play ,,how much n all -----there always used to be an unrealistic deviation ---which were difficult to achieve ,, but we rather tried ----there were two effects ----if we could not achieve --there was frustration , there were negativities and drive to go further missed sometimes -----so it was constant endeavour to make realistic targets , achieve it with full confidence and then try for more ---
Answering here --i would like to say the same ----one cant have all virtues of the world---------time is ----is to know the self ---what are my better traits which can still be bettered ---competetion is with the self ----to go one step further and in the process ,,admiring all the good , one comes across ----but never tried to assimilate the digestive difficulties ----the one which doesn't be ...more
Answered by RAJESH, 12 Jul '09 12:13 pm

 
  
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No doubt at all SS...!!!
I dore most of your excellent qualities at this young age.
Also you brought up with best education and knowledge.
Naturally you are interested in all the good things in the world.
Musc,dance,entetainment,establishment,kindness,love,affec tion,intelligence,morality,calmness,ability to coverse,answer,communication.
In spite of all that you are honest and good hearted.
That makes me to adore you.
Most of the talents and qualities I dont have.....!!!
Answered by muniyamma a, 11 Jul '09 11:02 pm

 
  
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Can a poor man ever forget about his poverty and it's impact and can a illiterate man ever forget about his illiteracy which glares at him all his life ? . Life itself is a strong drive towards what we want that we do not have and work to get it . Can a sensitive man ignore the qualities he lacks as sees the same in others ? We strongly desire what we want and what we do not posses . Human nature is such .
Answered by RAMASWAMY VENKATESH, 11 Jul '09 07:33 pm

 
  
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Never happened to me
Answered by conviction, 21 Jan 07:53 pm

 
  
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Cannot help it
Answered by anil garg, 06 Feb '10 09:01 pm

 
  
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