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My brother got married recently in April. He is suffering from scheizophernia and due to emotional reasons we could not tell the girl. After marriage we have told the girl regarding the medicines now she is upset and her behaviour has changed towards my mother. We do not have any grudges on her, she is right in her way i mean anybody would have become upset. But i am worried about my mother and feels more sad about her as whole life she has seen only hardships and lot of miseries. This makes me more uncomfortable, what should i do to get out of her miseries? how should i help her and my brothe

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Asked by Revati Kale, 19 Nov '12 09:31 am
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Miseries come when you are escapist in your life than confronting.. The same thing happened with your Brother's marriage also.. You did hide the inadequacy of your brother which is sufficient reason to nulify the marriage.

To my view you should relieve the girl from this marriage and accpet the life. He is your brother and your mother's son.. you should take care of him and not have a girl through deceptive way to make her attendent under the shield of marriage.
Answered by Sharmila Bose, 19 Nov '12 10:09 am

 
  
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The only way out is to have your brother treated from a good doctor

A diagnosis of schizophrenia is not a life-sentence of ever-worsening symptoms and hospitalizations. Recovery is possible. In fact, the majority of people with schizophrenia get better over time, not worse. According to the UKs Royal College of Psychiatrists, for every five people who develop schizophrenia:

1 in 5 will get better within five years of their first episode of schizophrenia.
3 in 5 will get better, but will still have some symptoms. They will have times when their symptoms get worse.
1 in 5 will continue to have troublesome symptoms.

When treated properly, most people with schizophrenia are able to have satisfying relationships, work or pursue other meaningful activities, be part of the community, and enjoy life.
Answered by rajan, 19 Nov '12 09:36 am

 
  
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Yes,try and help as much as possible
give emotional support to your mother,brother and his wife
Answered by anil garg, 17 Feb '13 04:52 pm

 
  
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Purposely u put a girl's life in misery. Dont u hve any feeling towards her ?
Answered by Babu K, 20 Nov '12 08:15 am

 
  
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If you were the girl to be married for such boy, what you would have done? There is no penance for this kind of sin.
Answered by dinkar shetty, 19 Nov '12 01:05 pm

 
  
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Sorry to say, these miseries were self invited only by getting him married, not allowing the facts about him known to the girl. If things were clear to the girl right from the start you know not to get her married to him and would get an opportunity to find one who would be compatible with him to take care of him.!
The only option if the girl does not settle down with your family is to plz terminate the marriage. May be you could first get a better treatment for your brother and then let marriage take its own course if it has to with the right woman.!
Answered by Anuja, 19 Nov '12 10:25 am

 
  
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Your Mother was already unfortunate , when had a sick son. But hiding the girl, his wife from his sickness , at the same time expecting her to accpet all the miseries with smile is also not fair. When she cant find a happy hope ful life for her in your home , it might be giving her lot of stress. Let the girl decide what is righ tfor her. if she is not happy with your brother and family , allow her to choose to leave your brother and family for ever. It is not amatter of few days for her to tollerate this hardship. it is a matter of life time misery for her.. When she is gone , mother can feel relaxed and look after her sick son , the way she used to look after him before his marriage. The son needs only care . Mother can do it , without expecting an unhappy wife to do it. Dont forget, she was cheated by not informing her and her family about your brother's sickness.Her depressed and frustrated state of mind can lead her to do anything critical,bad or unpleasant ,What a humanbei ...more
Answered by Rachana, 19 Nov '12 09:52 am

 
  
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The most unfortunate on the part of your family elders-Literally they have ruined the life of an innocent girl !
I will suggest to file for a divorce case and mutually accept it as early as possible
Answered by MsRachanaMenon, 19 Nov '12 09:41 am

 
  
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Thats very cruel of your family, How can you cheat to an unknown girl ? and why the hell you felt need to marry a person suffering frm schizophrenia , Instead of his treatment ?
Answered by Shatabdi Express, 19 Nov '12 09:34 am

 
  
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