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Percentage of wife beaters are more in Tamilnadu than many of the states where the percentage of literacy is very low. And Kerala has the least percentage of wife beaters. And the most absurd truth is 60% of the Tamilnadu women who are beaten accept it as a normal thing and have no regrets. What is your opinion about this behavior of men and women in Tamilnadu, a forward state with good literacy rate?

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Asked by Josna, 06 Mar '10 07:09 am
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The plight of women can be imagined by one of the shloka of Tulsidas where he writes "Dhol, gawar, shudra, pashu, nari, ye sab tadan ke adhikari". Meaning that animals, illiterates, lower castes and women should be subjected to beating. Thus women were compared with animals and were married off at an early age. The child marriage along with it brought some more problems such as increased birth rate, poor health of women due to repeated child bearing and high mortality rate of women and children. Why Tulsidas, who wrote Ramayan said this? What was the logic behind this?
Answered by Jack Johnson, 06 Mar '10 09:01 am

 
  
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I LOVE Tamil Nadu, but the value system in their society there is a bit shaky 4 family life unless both spouses meet strict compliance conditions. The value system there is sort of unhealthily Victorian sometimes by an large and that sort of backfires.

To give u a FRANK example, if u look at a typical Kerala family function at MANY times u see a section of good healthy vice free ladies and bottle lovin gents existing in perfect harmony. U don't see dat 2 much in TN for example, where everything is very compliance strict.

In Kerala, females are not some sort of Pehlwani experts and neither are females protection wing some Scotland Yard or nothin' TN state is WAY better in female domestic violence ENFORCEMENT, but INCIDENCE of domestic violence in KL state is LARGELY averted by the fact that ppl there by and large tend to be less puritanical in upbringing, which is a good and a bad thing.

In TN, being a "good father" means a set of activities as to you do x, you cannot do Y a ...more
Answered by A Moin, 06 Mar '10 09:50 pm

 
  
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Society to a large extent is dictated by the social mores prevalent. Where no attempt has been made to change it, the practice continues where the male gender carries on with their bullying techniques by various forms of subjugation - emotional or physical. The pertinent point to note here is that, even with the march of civilsation to the 21st Century, a vast array of social outlook has not changed. There is no doubt that, such acts by men are despicable and needs not only be condemned but stringent social laws should be implemented to combat such menances.

Why hasn't the society changed and what is that keeps these women to think it is normal to get beaten up by their male counterparts or family members and not feel regret about it. The problem lies with the women themselves to a great extent. Since many of them have gone through the same cycle, accepted it without a protest, they in turn ingrain the same kind of social mores in their offspring that, men are the masters and women ...more
Answered by Omega, 06 Mar '10 01:57 pm

 
  
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U r right somthing is worng at there
Answered by Shiva, 04 Dec '10 04:37 pm

 
  
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It seems that its being viewed as normal has crept into minds of people there
Answered by anil garg, 30 Jul '10 09:09 pm

 
  
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Conservativeness is the real reason, in other parts women have got equal economic and social stature, they dont take such behaviour from men anymore, they go to the police, southern states are still religiously conservative, i see that in temples one has to dress in traditional indian clothing whereas in other states its liberal, education in india does not make people broad minded its only for job finding
Answered by kamini joshi, 28 Jul '10 12:17 pm

 
  
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But in Tamilnadu women are also worshiped. Every women is called "amma" irrespective of age. ill- treating women in crowds or ogling at women are less in TN compared to Kerala. ill- treating women evokes better response from public in TN than in Kerala. The difference lies in husband-wife relationship. A kerala women sees her husband more a partner than a demi-god to look after her. Man-women equality is better appreciated in Kerala in general. But the general baggage of second grade status for women exists through out India ! A relationship between literacy and wife beating doesnt really exists...kerala and TN are examples for that.. both have good literacy rates !
Answered by Shunmugham, 07 Mar '10 11:02 am

 
  
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Women are men worshippers by choice and those who think otherwise fall in the minority. Men get provoked easily whereas women though given the title of 'weaker sex' are in fact stronger and can handle situations without much reaction save by using their tongue which men do not do which results in the use of the force of hand.And this use of their tongue could be worse than the force of a hand!! Whether a woman takes beating as normal needs further analysis but suffice it to say they do hide this fact from society as it will reflect badly on them and show them as those who have behaved in a manner deserving the wrath of the men in their life.
Answered by gem mina, 06 Mar '10 02:32 pm

 
  
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This is a fact of life, but this happens where the women tend to accept it as their fate
Answered by rajnikant raiyarela, 06 Mar '10 11:22 am

 
  
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Good question , I think literacy has nothing to do with wife beating or crimes against women
Let us take case of Britain where almost every one is literate
The Facts
"Violence against women continues to persist as one of the most heinous, systematic and prevalent human rights abuses in the world. It is a threat to all women, and an obstacle to all our efforts for development, peace, and gender equality in all societies. Violence against women is always a violation of human rights; it is always a crime; and it is always unacceptable. Let us take this issue with the deadly seriousness that it deserves."

Ban Ki moon, United Nations Secretary General

What is violence against women?
According to the UN, violence against women is "Violence that is directed at a woman because she is a woman or that affects women disproportionately".

Each year across the UK 3 million women experience violence, and there are many more living with the legacies of abuse experienced in the past. ...more
Answered by mythsbusted, 06 Mar '10 10:49 am

 
  
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