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Nowadays people tend to have only 1 or 2 children
When the time of marriage is it wrong of the parents not giving their consent to a love marriage, when they have substancial evidence about the future failure of that marriage and if his son/duaghter does not see the valid reason and forcibly stop that marriage at any cost.?

Tags: money, relationships, love marriage
Asked by Josna, 24 Jan '10 02:45 pm
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If any parent does that, there wouldn't be much left in the relationship between the parents and the children after that. One can only go upto a point to try and convince them. But as you would no, in such circumstances Love is a blinder, where they would be unable to not only see but listen to any logic or reason or anything said at that point of time. The psyche, the mindset is then attuned in such a way, that it is impossible to pry them out of that however catastrophic the arrangement or marriage may look to the parents. Some things defy reason and this is one such occasion.

It would be better to leave it at that and give the parent's consent. Life is a big leveller. May be, for the very reasons for which it is opposed, the two might go that extra yard more than the normal to make it work, successul and happy. If it doesn't, then I guess the boy or girl was aware of it in the first place and has taken the chance. And we as parents would have to keep supporting them to pick up t ...more
Answered by Omega, 24 Jan '10 03:18 pm

 
  
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It seems that you do not support love marriage. What is wrong in it if the boy is good, very talented, has good income or good service and ability to improve further ?
Answered by subhash, 25 Jan '10 09:59 pm

 
  
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Marriage lays the foundation of a family. According to me, getting married is a must! You need to find the right person to get married to. There are two different ways that we generally follow to get married, either arranged marriage or love marriage. The former is the most commonly followed in India. Love or arranged both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. It's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage. Not all the love stories in love marriages have happy endings. In love marriages you come to know each other quite well, as you get to spend time with each other, fall in love, and then decide to get married. Although there is other side of the coin too, which I believe is very true. Staying with a person ...more
Answered by Dil Se, 25 Jan '10 03:35 pm

 
  
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I think modern trend is much better than older one when girls had no say at all.After all it is their life , let them choose their life partners.I am proud to be different as far as my children are concerned
Answered by indrajeet, 24 Jan '10 03:18 pm

 
  
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The parents are matured, whereas, the children are just keeping feet in the era of adultness and at those moments, they see only attraction mostly physical or beauty and are unable to find out good or bad in most cases. It is the duty, responsibility & love of parents to check out good/bad of the future lives of their children. Parents never think bad of children. Moreover, the education system & current communication /media system has manipulated the Human Relation system very badly and adversely.
Answered by chhinder pal, 24 Jan '10 03:16 pm

 
  
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Now a days every child(tanager) wants to select his/her own choice of life partner..but some parents dont allow coz of many reasons...sometimes parents and some times child must understand each other
Answered by cherry, 24 Jan '10 02:51 pm

 
  
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That would be wrong.They r grown up boys n girls.As parents,our duty is to try to show them the reason,not to force.
Answered by Damodar Biswal, 24 Jan '10 02:49 pm

 
  
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