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Why is everyone expected to get married? In our Indian culture why do we look down on spinsters and bachelors or people who don't feel marraige is for them?

Asked by blue ocean, 05 Dec '09 08:47 pm
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The concept of marriage began to give a a legitimacy to the union (both physical and emotional) between man and woman and offering social protection to them and any offspring that they may get within the legal framework. When the couple is bound under the social norms, it allows them to grow, develop kinship and emotional bond and provide support and comfort to one another. Another ancient theory suggests that marriage was insitituted so that a man will have exclusive service of the woman so that he can be sure that the children are his. Whatever the reason, there is no doubt that having a partner makes a person responsible and disciplined and gives a secure environment for the children to grow ...teaches sharing, caring, commitment to stay and work for what he believes, settle, develop roots in a place.... in which inturn keeps the wheels of society running smoothly. In short, marriage completes a person and ensures that the traditions and rituals and associations to a family i ...more
Answered by sumitha, 06 Dec '09 01:28 am

 
  
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Who says that everyone is expected to get married. To each his own. I will not go too deep into this discussion. His Eminence Valerian Cardinal Gracias, Archbishop of (also known as the PRINCE of the Catholic Church in Bombay) the erstwhile BOMBAY diocese was the only son of his parents yet he gave himself up to God and served human kind and there was NO PRESSURE from his parents (being the only son) to get married. Instead, they whole heartedly accepted his desire to become a Priest and who rose to the rank of a Cardinal. Much depends on parents PRESSURE too. Take the case of our ex President of India, Dr. Kalam who was also a bachelor. Did he not achieve what others would have achieved!!!
Answered by John Mascarenhas, 06 Dec '09 01:49 am

 
  
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This is one of the unlogical demands of society. When a person reaches a certain age , has finishes his/her studies and becomes established the nest thing he/she is expected to do is to get married. So many comments are being made at people who opt to remain unmarried . Unmarried girls are mostly targetted. People go to the extremes to say she must have done something immoral or unethical so she is not getting grooms. When one does not have someone of his/her choice as a future life partner, then horoscopes are consulted to find a suitable match and then a marriage is arranged. Almost all people fall for this and take the plunge willingly or unwillingly.As a result so many marriages fall apart. So people who decide not to marry should be understood by society and given their due.Its better to remain unmarried than being unhappy in marriage. Society must understand this.
Answered by Mitali Choudhury, 06 Dec '09 05:31 pm

 
  
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Marriage is an important social more
nothing more to say
Answered by anil garg, 06 Dec '09 12:55 am

 
  
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Hi ,Neel, Marriage is a ritual with which people can legally have a companion.It is rule of Nature ,for every living being to live with a Companion.But companionship can be had only with compatible person orelse they tend to get departed in every aspect.A child when grows into an adult, parents,friends and close related people encourage them to get married.It is not just for their biological needs,but also for all their emotional needs and companionship.It is the individual to decide if they are prepared for marriage or not,Parents might force considering it as their duty ,but spinsters and bachelors can decide to live alone if they dont wish to get married.Once the son or daughter get married parents responsibility is over.The girl andboy definitely need to to have all the capability to take the commitment and responsibility of marriage.They cannot find fault with their parents if the spouse is not compatible or if the relationship is not working or prospering.Indian culture is doing ...more
Answered by Rachana, 05 Dec '09 09:29 pm

 
  
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People have sometimes strange reasons to believe what they believe. Then, there are more strange happenings when people don't have any reasons / logic to believe what they believe yet they believe what they believe.

I am a chronic bachelor and never recommend marriage to anyone who doesn't look fit to share his life like a married person should be... I had stopped a few of my friends (boys & girls) from marrying when they were forced to marry by their parents... later on so many of them married... but I haven't.

Some more people, in my family, have not married and nobody dares to say anything in front of us... and by judging from the response of our family circle none of those have any reservations about our unmarried status.
Answered by rajneesh Rediff, 05 Dec '09 09:15 pm

 
  
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Very simple answer, Meme.
We all are victim of parent's unquestionable rule during our childhood.
So, we go for marriage, regeneration etc only to take revenge by ruling our own children.
And we look down on spinners and bachelors because they lack that attitude of eternal revenge.
Ha ha ha.
Answered by Prakash Chandra, 05 Dec '09 09:08 pm

 
  
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Bachelors aren't looked down on so much as spinsters who conjure up images of being worthless or too ugly to get married.
Answered by nargis bhambi, 05 Dec '09 09:06 pm

 
  
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Thats Indain mentality...cant help it.
Answered by ivylourenco, 05 Dec '09 08:57 pm

 
  
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As per sociatal norm
Answered by dhanendra kumar jain, 05 Dec '09 08:52 pm

 
  
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