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I have a question..my daughter is 13 yrs old and once i told her if she did suduko (hard version) from hindu paper, i will pay her 20 rupees everytime she succeeds. Now she tries and is getting very good at it and succeeds almost everytime now-a-days and comes to me asking for 20 rupees. Have i done wrong in making her do the suduko for sake of money? I am confused whether to make kids do intersting things for gifts or money. Please advise

Asked by Kaza Sahab, 18 Jul '07 02:46 pm
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1. u have done is correct. Only thing now is give her a bigger task..
2. To keep her away from spending money . tell her u will double the money of whatever she has on her 17th bday(just a no.) so she gets into habit of saving money.
Answered by Rahul Pathak, 18 Jul '07 02:49 pm

 
  
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Children should do things for themselves and for their desires to learn, and not for external rewards. Please do not give money or gifts, instead use encouragement and build motivation in the child.
Regards,

Rupal PAtel
Answered by rupal patel, 25 Jul '07 01:04 pm

 
  
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Dear Kaza Saheb, "Aj Salaam Malekoom" No absolutely not as you have not done anything wrong. In all probabilities you have motivated her. But here I may say if you dont mind that never give children that lalaach otherwise they get spoilt as you know and here I may this proverb "MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL" with money some children get spoilt also and they go then for bad habits. I use to never give to my children that lalaach. U can buy her something like clothes, icecream or any thing but never give money in hand as that power goes in their brain right from the childhood and that will spoil them. AL D BEST. Regards Cyrus
Answered by cyrus irani, 18 Jul '07 02:52 pm

 
  
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you have done right bcoz in the hunger of 20 rupees she had done a lot n now she is more intelligent as compare to past n paying to own child is not wrong n i advice you to give her a new challenge which is more difficult n due to money she will be more intelligent. okkkkkkk
Answered by ferry sofat, 18 Jul '07 02:51 pm

 
  
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kaza sahab, u did absolutly wrong to offer money to your daughter.
Answered by lokesh kumra, 18 Jul '07 02:50 pm

 
  
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no it is a sort of encouragement you r doing toward ur kid ...
Answered by Julie, 18 Jul '07 02:49 pm

 
  
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Nothing really wrong with that. It encourages a little girl like that to search her inner self and come out with the best that is in her. Sometimes, we are so ignorant of the talent ingrained in our kids and tend to ignore it. Seeing no appreciation, they kind of suppress it. Kids need some kind of incentive to encourage them.

But don't give a chocolate or cash for doing home work regularly or for behaving properly. What you can probably do, is keep a track of the no. of times she earns this 20 rupees, total it at the end of the month, give her some as pocket money (never give too much money to kids even if you are rich - it will only backfire later), add some from your pocket and put that into an account in her name. These days, HDFC, Citibank, ICICI bank etc. have provision for opening a children's account.
So, in another 5 years there will be a tidy sum, which you can use for her use, later
Answered by Omega, 18 Jul '07 02:53 pm

 
  
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NOTHING WRONG NOW YOU CHANGE YOURSELF AND TELL HER TO DO SOME OTHER THING LIKE COMING FIRST IN CLASS OR SECURE MAX. MARKES IN MATHS SCIENCE ETC ETC. GIFTS ALWAYS LURES KIDS.TELL HER SUDUKO IS OVER AND SHE IS PERFECT NOW...
Answered by ANURADHA PATHAKJ, 18 Jul '07 02:52 pm

 
  
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No. u havent done nethin wrong. Change ur prize now with a comment tht she has got a hand and got a trick of solvin sudoku. and she shud try for sumthin else and give her some amt to spend and some for saving ( u can manage a money box for her). explain her tht she can spend her pocket money as she wants but can touch savin money just once in 4 months (or u decide a span) she will learn and earn... this is wht I suggest. :-)
Answered by madhavi, 18 Jul '07 02:51 pm

 
  
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Its a mistake to make kids do any job for gifts or money.
Answered by SAMSON KASOOKAR, 18 Jul '07 02:49 pm

 
  
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