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What is preferable: divorce or a bad marriage?

Asked by radhika banerjee, 16 Apr '09 09:40 am
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Sai Ram. Each has its own karmic lessons, a painful separation, the social inquisition, the financial problems, custody of children etc. in case of a divorce and the constant clash of egos and the continued stress of that. It is like being asked to choose between the devil and the deep sea.

If there is a lot of physical abuse, go for divorce.

In any case, I hope the question is more intellectual and hypothetical. Sai Ram. Blessings.
Answered by Venkateswaraswamy Swarna, 17 Apr '09 11:45 pm

 
  
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If a marriage does not work inspite of all the efforts, it is better to go for a divorce and then both can choose new partners for themselves again. When there is no understanding between the spouses and somehow the marriage does not work, I feej, there is no need to pretend but to go for divorce. However, if there are children, every care should be taken to see that the children do not suffer due to decision of parents to divorce.
Answered by Francisco, 17 Apr '09 01:31 pm

 
  
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Being single is best ..
Answered by gaurav sharma, 17 Apr '09 10:31 pm

 
  
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Bad marriage may be due to many reasons but major reason may be
LUST - one or both partner should try to find out the ways to overcome & adjust
EGO: This wil make second marraige also a bad marriage. So one should control their EGO
In-Comaptibility: If LUST or EGO is set aside one can overcome this cause.
If one is having all the three reasons and is unable to compromise / adjust - then it is better to have a divorse then carry on unahappy life.
Answered by PANIWALA A, 27 Sep '09 07:45 pm

 
  
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Each case must be judged individually there is not a blanket answer to cover the circumstances of every married couple - all are different with different problems. Certainly marriage is a commitment and should be a safe and caring environment in which to raise children with the blessing of 2 loving parents. Many couples who experience difficulties in their marriage are mature enough to work out their difficulties and overcome them for their benefit and that of their children. However, that is not always the case. Women and sometimes men can find themselves imprisoned in a violent marriage suffering physical and mental abuse on a daily basis - what example is that for children to see that married life is all about hitting their Mother. Such children can grow up to be abusers themselves because they think it is normal behaviour. They also grow up in fear, fear of upsetting their Father and being on the receiving end of a beating themselves. What life is this - this is not responsi ...more
Answered by Janis, 19 Apr '09 10:40 pm

 
  
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Marriage is all about commitment . I think if you have kids it is important to try and save the marriage because you need to think about the kid's first and the effect the divorce will have on them. Kids need both the parents then you should sacrifice ur self for the kid's sake . There is always a way out for any problem. It is the challenge to be together despite our individual differences and create a harmony for ourselves,our children and our enviroment. Divorce is a running away from responsible and civilised living. Marriage is a life of compromise. Love your partner unconditional you will never think abt divorce.
Answered by sumati gayki, 17 Apr '09 12:13 pm

 
  
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The problem in bad marriage is that every body related to it suffers, including the parents. Girl's parents do not, as there are laws to support the girl, even if she is wrong. Many girls are using this tool to extort money & threaten boy's side to slap 498A, if boy do not do what she wants. Even Supreme court has termed it as Legal terrorism. Girls do not assume any responsibility & boys & his parents to take care of all the short term & long term repsonsibilities.
I fail to understand, how a child would have good maral values, if bad marriage is to continue. From a kids perspective, to make his/her life successfull, good moral values are a must, which I personnaly feel, can not be given in a bad marriage.

In a good marriage, both have to respect & value each other & do their day to day duties. One should give all tries to his marriage last, but if it is not working, it is in the interest of both to seperate.
Answered by Deepak Mittal, 17 Apr '09 01:05 pm

 
  
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Actually marriage are made in heaven. any dispute of wife and husband will be harmful (both mentaly and phycally) for their children and all your circumstances should be dirty.so avoid this.If you think(Female) you can leave better without him then you most take the divorce. and leave as you like without any body's order.If you are not so much educated or economically independent then try to overcome this problem using mutual rule in that case you have to more patience and power to digest the problem then one day will come not only your husband but also your family will be love you.
Answered by niranjan padhy, 17 Apr '09 03:23 pm

 
  
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Divorce is a better option. Why live in a bad relation ship when you can start afresh.
Answered by Shridhar Bohite, 17 Apr '09 01:24 pm

 
  
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Divorce can have a profound effect on children. It's impossible to add up the amount of loss children of divorce experience as their families and households are systematically taken apart and divided. However, there are a few ways to reduce the effects of divorce on children.

It depends. I always thought yes, but some of the info I've read has actually said that divorce can be worse than the parents not getting on so well.

So it depends on the extent of the bad marriage, and of course the nature of the divorce. If there's loads of fighting, yes, the kids would probably prefer a separation without that. But if you guys can seem okay in front of the kids and do the rest in private, maybe staying together for a while would be worth it.

It also depends how bad the divorce would be. If it could be easily sorted with input from the kids on where they will live, and nothing dragging on through the Courts, that could work well. By contrast if it gets nasty and the lawyers are going at ...more
Answered by ankit shivam, 18 Apr '09 09:21 am

 
  
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