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I saw many Males here in US & India ignore or dump their parents in favor of newly wed Wifes! Does that mean such Males are weak by nature or character?

Or is it something else? How do you explain this in the present times?

Tags: parents, nature, males
Asked by Sukhoi, 15 Oct '07 12:46 pm
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These actions doesn't mean that males are weak instead it shows that he's not able to deal with the situations arising between parents n wife,doesn't know how to balance both n keeps struggling in between them like "sandwich",doesn't know or understand whom to support n also doesn't want to give up on both,his parents n wife but after marriage,he has his own small family,its requirements,expenses,freedom,privacy etc. which he feels is his first priority now so wife becomes important for him n he goes with all her decisions.Might be the couple also feel that their privacy and freedom is invaded by the elderly people around...they need their space.He doesn't understand where to draw the line n for whom to draw the line.But its sometimes wrong I feel.Whatever situations may arise one shouldn't give up on their parents.We should always remember that they took care of all our needs till we were able to take care of ourselves n still keep doing it even after........all their life.
I don't ...more
Answered by Priya Sivaji, 18 Oct '07 11:06 pm

 
  
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Weak character but I think in most of the cases ladies should be blamed for this !!
ladies are said to be more passionate and caring then how can they behave so selfishly. It is very ridiculous to see some men going down to any level to keep their wife happy !!
I found some of my cousines changing very fast after marriage. It was very difficult to digest when thinking about thier earlier attachment to parents. So who is responsible ?
I noticed in a lot of profiles of girls on matrimony that they are looking for somebody who can keep them happy !! I sent funny msgs to some of them :)
Answered by jacob, 18 Oct '07 02:42 pm

 
  
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What about the wives, who leave their parents, relatives and homes after marriage and opt to live in new home of the husband?....Gee Waman
Answered by gajanan wamanacharya, 15 Oct '07 12:49 pm

 
  
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Comrade, you reap what you sow.

MANY (not saying all but MANY) households in India raise their kid with nothing but as a set of expectations & standards. In TOO MANY HOUSEHOLDS raising a kid is taken as a joke. Sometimes makes you think if we should introduce a reproduction license in India.

In school, it's ALWAYS "get 100 marks" WHy? To go to a college? And there? Get 100 marks? Why? To go to a good job in an MNC. Why? To get money & buy a Bunglaw in Venice Beach or near Harrod's. So, it was only the venice beach bunglaw, 6 digit bank account all along :) For the ENTIRE CHILD'S LIFE.

In the whole process not a SINGLE ounce of national values or national pride is given. It's CLEARLY visible. How else do you explain the demographic fact that in UAE there are more Indians than local Emirati Arabs- despite given second class treatment?!

Too many kids are raised in a VERY single faceted way, wherein their ENTIRE childhood is geared around nearing institutional academic perf ...more
Answered by A Moin, 30 Nov '07 07:19 pm

 
  
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Man learns things from childhood. He learns through eyes. All our advices are not reaching a child. If a child SEES that grandparents and others are well taken
care of by both father and mother, that record works out well when he is marries.
This applies to ladies also. Moreover, gossip-less house generatesa values.
Parenting is an art and exercise.
Answered by venkat ramani ramachandran, 18 Oct '07 02:50 pm

 
  
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After marriage every individual,especially males should know how to stike the balance in life, particulary pertaing to maintaining the relationshipos between his family members.It is his duty to make the wife and his parents to understand each other well before "Pillow Manthras" take it's influence.It is quite obvious that the newly enterd person(Wife) is having lots of expectation from her husband and feels that she needs everything from her husbnad.No denial.But it doesn't mean that the husband should leave aside his parents and care only the wife.
We should not forget the fact that after the breaking away from our old traditional joint family system, the influence of neglecting the parents have increased.So we have to take that too into consideration.
But waht ever happens, a well balanced husband never ditches his parents and rather will try to keep them all intact and maintain a good relationship.That shows his calibre, greatness and understanding ability.No wife will be against ...more
Answered by gopikumar, 15 Oct '07 12:56 pm

 
  
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Weak in character
This i really a decline of present ages and this is all prefixed by god
Answered by anirban, 15 Oct '07 12:49 pm

 
  
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I think those parents too ignored their parents
Answered by Shiva, 28 Jun '11 05:17 pm

 
  
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