I cant be unselfish always For me I am very important --- people around me must be reciprocal of implied duties among soul to soul.--- I am doubtful about a chance of the same life again. So I want to enjoy my own life. As a citizen , as a husband, as a son ,as a father I render my duties to my level best. At the same time I have my own provisions to entertain myself to my innate moralistic desires.
I may be naturally emotional to the sufferings of my kith and kin ,friends and fellow humans. But everything has got its own limits. No one can blackmail me with emotional attachments. In that case I leave them to face their own consequeces . I wont succumb to emotional atyachar by anyone. It really happens often due to attachments on relatives.
But people attached to me well knows how much I bother myself on such threats.

Once a person starts living honestly wid himself/herself, he/she gets all the power to resist such type of bullets coming from others and nothing can make a person like a football....

Resist u cannot........as long as people are there around to torture u......, but u shd never succumb to ''unreasonable torture''.....and to do that u must be confident and strong enough.....; let people carry on with their atyachar.., never get hurt and pay least heed if u know u are in the right.............

Look for the substance in the 'emotions', is it pure melodrama or something more serious? Obviously, the former is to be ignored because it is of a temporary nature and normally doesn't carry any seriousness with it except the events momentarily triggered that has put you in such a situation.

The later one has to be handled deftly, so that as far as possible neither are you hurt nor the other person to send him or her off into a reclusive state. I think, each has to be handled as the situation demands in such a way that, there are no after effects. Of course, you have to remain strong, very strong & steadfast too mentally and never waver once you have taken a decision not to succumb and more important, NEVER feel guilty on the action you have taken. Because, if it leaves a guilty conscience in you, it will come back to haunt you for no reason to spoil your peace of mind thinking 'oh, I have been unfair to him or her from my own selfish point of view'. No, you are not being selfish ...more

2.5 for simplicity
2.5 for intellect
2.5 for the capability to make my samiyana to ashiana
AND other 2.5 to be a good preayasi by her angel , cute ( thora mischivious chalega ) smile and art of loving and living

Be emotionally strong that is the only way out.

Sum, have you ever given a serious thought, if some wrong like this attracts you? No, I am sure from the question! This particular negative emotion was already in you and it surfaces now because of energy flow between you and that individual! If you didn't have this tendency in you, you wouldn't have been attracted at all! None gives to us any negative emotion, it is already in us resulted due to our past negative thoughts or deeds. Now he/ she has helped you to trigger the tendency in you and instead of blaming him- thank him for triggering it. You are now aware of the negative emotion deeply buried in you and start the healing process to LET GO !

Also dig deep within you to find out any other negative emotion is still hiding like ANGER, GREED, FEAR, JEALOUS, WORRY, SELF CONCEPTS, BELIEFS, ASSUMPTIONS, DELAYING TACTICS, DENIAL, RESENTMENT or even REVENGE. Weed them out like you do in your garden. Be kind to yourself. Begin to love and approve yourself. That's what you need to ex ...more

By having self principles and knowing how to protect yourself by not falling a pray to anyone and anything.Give no room for any emotional behaviours!

That is a good question. Emotional atyachar is emotional blackmailing or excesses. I have also thought about it and ultimately decided that, giving lip services to the matter and then retiring from the scene is best if I am to keep them i.e. "ppl around you" in good humour. If "ppl around you" are not so much of a problem nor do I worry about the consequences, it is better to be outspoken about my thinking. There will be shock but no wrong accusation or misunderstanding. Better to follow the first option i,e, giving lip service only. Women may shed few drops of tear also in addition to words.

By rounding off that emotional atyachar into tripple or many folds n offer them back on a silver platter with your sweet smile !