Who is bashing up whom in whatever form it may be & who is driving the other mad to the point of extreme steps?
Read this & answer - Statistics released by National Crime Records Bureau says, the no. of married men who committed suicide was a tragic 1,07,935 as against the less alarming number of 58,067 married women.
In continuation to the previous Qn, please express your views - who is more heartless & calling the shots inspite of an equally alarming increase in crimes against women, confined more to rural where as the former is indicative of an urban trend?
Sharpen ur knives!!!!!!
With it i want to chop off the head of all men who say that the male is the persecuted sex in India. Today, yes today, a young woman , married just 4 months ago was thrown out of her home by her husband. This happened in the next building to ours, in the morning as we were going off to work. Now at 8 pm she is still sitting outside waiting for her husband to come home and she hopes he will take her in, I suppose. She has had neither had any food nor drunk water. She says her husband has thrown her out, because he wants to marry again. She does not want to go home , because she is afraid for ridicule. She cannot live alone because she is scared and not confident enough. So who is calling the shots ?????? Even in urban India, even in Mumbai and Navi Mumbai..you see how women are being exploited. In Mumbai's posh Cuffe Parade a rich man has told his wife of 30 years that he will look after her ...more
Men have extra responsibilities like looking after the families. They first of all do not express themselves and bottle up everything. When their wives too do not support, they feel that they have no one and are alone. This drives them to suicide
Men make friends with whom they can hang out, and women make friends with whom they can share their feelings. "Women are socialized to have more friends, deeper friendships, and so on. Men are socialized differently, to be macho, and do not have much deeper friendships. So when woman is in dpresssion state , women have more of a social support network."
"Men tend not to talk to their male friends that easily about personal problems in their lives,And, they also tend not to go to their primary care physicians as easily as women for anything or seek psychiatric help of any kind. The result can be a very scary sense of isolation.
All these years, women were confined to the home and they didnt know a world existed outside...their pati was their devta and the women were content to live in the shadows of the patidev and the men also took that women were born to serve men and ill-treated them in many ways...... Now the time has changed.....women have more exposure the world...they have woken up to their rights and are independent financially and are becoming more and more assertive in their demands which the men are unable to cope with.
In marital strife, both have equal responsibility and neither can bash others if both are mature individuals...... but what we find is while men want sundar, sushil, padi likhi ladki who brings dowry and a working woman is a life long bonus ..... they dont want to compromise on their demands.....although the woman maybe highly educated quali ...more
This argument does not mean that men are not penalised.Men are also subject to emotional trauma resulting out of marital life and there are women who take them to court for settling some issues.I firmly believe that crime against women cannot be compared to the suicides committed by men.Urban life puts lot of social stress to succeed on men which makes them take the extreme step.Then to be a man has it's own privileges and rights .Let us have it and be strong too:-)))))
Now when I talk about the responsibilities, it is not only - "What we must do", but also. "What we must not do". Not that all the men are straight blemishless angels, but women are no better either. As you have good and bad men, you have good and bad women too. Then why should only "Men" be blamed? Gone are the days, when a mother-in-law would torture the daughter-in-law for not giving a son. In fact, the "birth of the son" was merely a facade then and it is so now. The fact is it was a "Power Struggle" between two women (MIL and DIL) and "birth of a son/heir to the throne/vansh" was merely a tool to disparage the enemy in a war.
Women want their wishes to be respected. Well. How many women wish to respect the wishes of the men?
Aapka khoon khoon, hamaara khoon paa ...more
No matter gender social fashion enthusiasts argue, in India, guys are put thru a lot more expectation & societal pressure and stress than are girls. In a married life, a guy's (or gal's) professional life surely plays a huge part.
Even in my own simple little cooperative in Bandhs'R'Us (Kerala), if a guy tells me "I need some leave" unless it's a death of a family member, or an extremely dire emergency...it's not granted. You got to be a lot more flexible w/a girl, unless you want a ton of NGOs going hot on your tail. If a guy said "my wife is a bit sick, I need to take her to hospital", and I say "no comrade, the shipment schedule must be met, but I will arrange auto for ur Mom" he has to take that as a response and carry on w/ his work. Try that on a female, and you'll be branded as an abuser of equal rights & as a female oppressor & as a "barbarian who is so harsh even on a female." But ...more