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In Indian marriages, participation of a widow in the ceremoney is prohibited and is regarded as 'Ap Shaguni'? Do u too think the same??Comment

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Asked by Rukhsana.Siddiqui, 20 Sep '07 02:39 pm
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Let me narrate this incident .

A beloved cousin (only in his 40s)passed away in an accident just 3 weeks before my brother in law's wedding.We were all very upset and wanted to not have any music in the wedding. His widow came up to us and said you will do no such thing as after all a wedding comes only once in a life time and music makes it memorable.She promised us that when the music played she would be the first one on the dance floor and that she would be there enjoying for two in all her finery.

On that day we had music but none of us really wanted to dance we had too much sorrow in our hearts. The Lady kept her word. She herself got up the first from our side on the floor and made sure all of us were there making merry .

As a woman I have never felt more proud of being born a woman than on that day when this woman kept aside her personal grief and made sure the marriage would be a memorable affair for all inspite of the sadness.

My brother in law too from ...more
Answered by EmM, 20 Sep '07 03:57 pm

 
  
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IT WAS OLD TRADITON BUT NOW TRADITION CHANGED who knows who is widow
Answered by chitty, 20 Sep '07 02:40 pm

 
  
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No i dnt never
Answered by pooja batra, 20 Sep '07 06:39 pm

 
  
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Its all scrap. needs to be discarded. Maybe by next generation it will be done away with.
Answered by PRITI, 20 Sep '07 04:17 pm

 
  
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Its an very old custom, not any more!! It was wrong earlier and it will be wrong now too!!
Answered by MS Prasad, 20 Sep '07 03:22 pm

 
  
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My religion does not allow such things. But, in Hinduism(Previously) it was there, and even (SATI SYSTEM) (IN WHICH THE WIFE WERE BURNT ALIVE ON THE FUNERAL OF HER HUSBAND). But, Islam permits to re-marry the widow, after completion of the waiting period (Iddat) (4 months after death of husband).
Answered by mohd yousuf, 20 Sep '07 02:52 pm

 
  
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My taiji (wife of father's elder brother) was a widow (tauji died in 1978) and she has been present in all the marriages of her children as well as other children of the whole family till now.
Answered by rajneesh Rediff, 20 Sep '07 02:51 pm

 
  
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I don't agree with that.
Answered by anandh, 20 Sep '07 02:50 pm

 
  
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Ye sab bekar ki baate hai....all rubbish..uski kya mistake hai...
Answered by Subodh Harbola, 20 Sep '07 02:42 pm

 
  
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It is a pity..,.
we should bring change
in our demeanour..
Never hurt a lady who
lost her husband...
God willed it....
Answered by AYYAMPALAYAM RAGHAVENDRARAO, 20 Sep '07 02:40 pm

 
  
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