First forget about destiny. If destiny really is there and it has decided against you I,you or for that nobody else can do anything about it. But destiny is the name of a convenient excuse man has found out to absolve him for his leghargy.What can poor god do when he has bestowed all his powers to you and you sit with lifeless legs and hands when you either do not exert enough to meet the situation. First find out where the shoe pinches. Is your spouse unwilling or rather afraid to sex. There are cases of otherwise perfectly healthy girl having a strange nerevousness about sex. It could haved come about for va rious reasons. May be she was subjected to a dirty sexual experience by her near and dear ones which has rendered her cold. Or may be she has some physical difficulty in participating fully in the act. Many a time the hymen is so touch that it does not rupture(normally it ruptues even by frequent bicycling )In such casdes sex ,even normal husbad-wife sex looks like a rape.In som ...more

There cannot be a general answer to this. the matter can be discussed only after knowing the exact resons

Discuss with the partner & try 2 solve. Or have some extra mrital relations, if possible with mutual consent or else in secrecy.

Go for counselling.

Look for multiple partners,and have lots of fun.