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Are Indian parents more harsh on their children when it comes to studies, many a time not fully understanding that each child has his/her own talent, aptitude and not realising that times have changed & more options are available ?

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Asked by Omega, 18 Oct '09 10:04 pm
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No, we cant say it is Indian parents; it is the low income parents who are more likely to use harsher forms of discipline on their children. The studies showed that low income parents are more likely to believe that spanking is a crucial and valuable form of punishment. However, low income parents aren't the only ones who are likely to punish their children for their studies too harshly.
The recent studies also show that stress can be a factor in harsh punishment. In fact, the study indicated that parents who work in jobs which have higher stress factors and parents, who stay at home, are also at risk for more harsh punishments for their child. One of the most critical facets of being a parent is discipline. It's very important that parents be able to know whether they are punishing a child too harshly. Parents need to ensure that the punishment they are administering to their child for their study is not too harsh based on the child's age, maturity level, and personality.

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Answered by joyesh chakraborty, 20 Oct '09 04:27 pm

 
  
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The curriculum is such that the schools want to overload the children with knowledge. This leaves them little or no opportunity to apply that knowledge. The emphasis is on the marks the child must score on objective types of questions. With this type of studies the child has little or no opportunity to utilize his own intrinsic talent and make use of his own aptitude. This keeps the child burdened. This also leaves him no time for extra curricular activities and for pursuing his hobbies. It is time that the education pattern must change.
Answered by Jack Johnson, 19 Oct '09 08:37 am

 
  
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Yes of course, Indian parents are more harsh on their children when it comes to studies. They tend to be pushy about their kids education. Even before the child is admitted into the school for kindergarten they begin exercising their right by making the child learn by rote answers for the so-called expected questions during the time of interview. As the child grows it might have a talent in arts like in painting or singing or in other creative activities. For a time, Parents allow it to bud thinking this is just a fancy which will wear off with time. But to their utter amazement if they find out that indeed their was determined to make his or her passion a vocation. Then raises the Ugly head of Protest giving veiled threats or even resorting to emotional blackmail. Because almost 80% of Parents in India feel that only the fields of Engineering and Medicine are lucrative fields by pursuing which the child can earn a good income and sustain himself or herself. This is the reason we see e ...more
Answered by inquisitive, 21 Oct '09 01:15 am

 
  
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U are absolutely right, Mr. Omega!! i agree 100% to ur opinion....; most of indian parents lack the right understanding of their children's potentials and their aptitudes....; they leave no stones unturned to have their children as doctors, engineers or scientists....forcibly engaging them with tutors to prepare them for the same....; they little realize the fact their children are really not capable of materialzing their parents' hopes and aspirations...as they lack the basic talents and potentials necessary for these streams.....; such parents are to be greatly pitied upon.....; they shd be made conscious of the fact that there are many other useful options for their children to pursue other than a doctor's or an engineer's, which their children may shine best.........
Answered by minati vishwakarma, 20 Oct '09 05:51 pm

 
  
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Yes sir,i agree with u in total
Answered by anushka desai, 18 Oct '09 10:17 pm

 
  
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While agreeing with you to a certain extent, I would point out to another aspect. The parents pamper the children so much. They see no difference between entertainment for adults and entertainment for children. They almost share the same thing over T.V and other entertainments avenues. So at proper time, the parents fail to assert their parental control over the children. The children are also sometimes so obstinate and pampered, that they never pay heed to what the parents have to say. Extra liberal attitude on the parts of the parents, especially the mothers are proving the undoings. And Children on their part enjoy when the parents quarrels over the issue. Tell me when the children will study/learn? after 17 / 18 years of age? when the golden period is over? In school days the children will only enjoy and have merry time (as per the prescriptions of the those liberals whose children are well established?). Is it now a crime to ask the children to sit for studies? First of all, th ...more
Answered by soumyen sarkar, 19 Oct '09 07:43 pm

 
  
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I fully agree with your views. Most academicians have now started to discuss about this
Answered by iqbal ahmed, 18 Oct '09 10:13 pm

 
  
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I suppose in India every parent wants his child to become a doctor/engineer or any other proffessional. They are not wrong also as a plain graduate/post graduate does not get a proper paying job.However every child does not have such an attitude and though you say that there are other options available but I do not see many options which are available to make a wonderful living without high education.
Answered by HEMANT MEHTA, 18 Oct '09 10:09 pm

 
  
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Dear Omega,
Good evening,
Please forgive me for answering this Q very late.
In every child, the parent visualises a dream. A dream which a parent couldnot accomplish or atleast should be better than their existence. Irrespective of many other options available, the parents never estimates the talent of the child but wants the child to be talented according to their wisdom and according to the prevailing age. Intent is better future of the child. It shall continue naturally forever once a child becomes a parent themselves.
And I donot find any wrong in being harsh on the child, if a secure future could be achieved. In todays world of large population, cut throat competition, a parent is right in inculcating hard work as remedy. The observation of not fully understanding the child does not arise, because if they would know it, they wouldnot be harsh on their own child.
Our perception, of someone being harsh to their own child, stems out of methodical knowledge which one knows. Many ...more
Answered by prabhat kumar kumar, 20 Nov '09 09:29 pm

 
  
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Yes. Most of the Indian parents expect their children to do what they themselves have not been able to achieve. In guiding their children they push them to take up courses related to job that would fetch them a good salary. Most of them don't consider the child's aptitude or interest. Parents want only professional courses for their children. They don't encourage their child to take up courses related to fundamental research, fine arts or subjects like economics which are very much needed for the growth and development of the country. Every parents dream is to see their child becoming an Engineer or a Doctor. Indian parents also give more importance to what their neighbors and friends think about their child's academic performance. They get paranoid if the child does not perform well academically.
Answered by Shyam, 22 Oct '09 06:57 pm

 
  
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