Let me first answer the latter part of your question. The mother-in-law & daughter-in-law relationship faces the same dilemma all over the world. For instance,if you have watched 'Everybody loves Raymond' serial you can realise that this problem is best brought out. The bone of contention is the Son, on the one hand is the Mother who feels it is her Sole right over him as she was the one responsible for his birth and growth into a young man. Whereas the young bride feels that she has married this man and so he rightfully belongs to her in every aspect. Both try to exercise their rights over him and poor guy gets caught in the battle which ensues. The first remedy would be to make TV and Movies to abstain from showing the two at loggerheads. The second remedy would be for the Mother to inculcate in the daughter that she should adjust after marriage and that one day she too would be in the mother-in-law's shoes. The mother-in-law should be made to realise her limitation and that she can ...more

I think both are responsible for this.they should sit together to chalk out a common minimum programme.both should respect the feelings of each other.the role of third party(son/husband) is very vital.

This is universal and both should be blamed for that. I feel the better remedy is keep distance.