Many women face lots of problems with their hubby - but cant voice it out. Cant come out of the marriage due to the pressure from the society or afraid that the next marriage could also lead the same way. Opinion please - on what they should do.
Women are better protected legally compared to earlier times.
Next marriage or relationship also may lead to the same result since the basic factors for failure of relationship are same from the person's side.
when there is difficulty in marriages...she stands to lose more...socially, physically, mentally & economically. In indian context, social obligations are more, economically... because the girls father is financially drained in marriages ...and the she feels guilty & hesitates to go back to her parents and become an economic liability to them....and if she has children then it becomes extremely difficult to leave the husband as it seems too selfish to deprive her children off their father and therefore continue to suffer in silence...many women coninue to live a lie either in the hope of changing their husband 's attitude with their love or blame their fate..
Divorce is no easy...there are many things to consider...
1. will her parents stand by her?
2. is she financially indpendent?
3. Doe ...more
If you say that it is the women only who face problems and not men, I totally disagree this. I take it otherise. Many a men face this problem too but can not leave his wife due to society presuure.
Aadmi ko bhi bahut compromise karna padta hai. He can not leave his wife since his kid have grown up and withing few years they will all seek marriage and if the society finds that the man is without his wife or the kids are without their mothere, they are considerdd of low khandaan so man has to compromise over it.
I do agree that the women suffer the most. In such a case they must try to adjust themself according to the situation and ...more
She has to concentrate on survival issues. Since nobody comes out with their problems there is a tendency to think she is the only one with problems. If the problems are that of survival they can live under the same roof and live their life separately. This will both get peace of mind and they will not trample on each other's toes as there will be so many common issues that they will have to share, like children, house, etc. Being incompatible is not a crime. If they understand this much of the situation can be handled with less tension.
In case if they have children, she need to wait and watch with lot of patience, for the improvement in situation, just for the sake of children. Inspite of this if there is no change, she can take divorce if she can stand on her legs financially and take care of the children. Leaving children to him is not advised, as he may go for second marriage, after it the children might be neglected.
Here re-marriage chances are very less to her, because many men accept a women as wife on second marriage, but do not whole heartedly adopt her existing children.
In many cases I have observed, husbands changed in the long run, when wife just ign ...more
Level 2) If nothing works then she shud give an ultimatum & go & stay with her parents / brothers / sisters for a few days. In most cases, husband comes back to his senses as he too has to face a social stigma. But just incase this doesn't happen then
Level 3) Go for seperation. Here is the last chance for both to reconcile. Yet, if for some reasons, this too doesn't work, then most unfortunate & final decision of a divorce.
Level 4) No point in spending a solitary life. The divorced partners shud look forward to a new association & choose their next better half more carefully.
MOST IMPORTANT : Women entangled in such cases shud avoid motherhood at any cost as this may only add to liabilities on both sides.
Dear Prasad, I know how easy it is said than done. Its traumatic. But to give u a simily, compare this with human ailments. For minor health complaints doctor ...more
Women dont voice out either(mostly) due to social pressure or immense love for her husband who we women regard as God!
If some woman goes for divorce, her life instead of getting better turns to worst.
So we women need to learn and cope with such situations taking them as intimate parts of life.