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Saas gali dewe--devarji samjha lewe---sasural genda phool----when this is the general perception ---that the in-laws are going to make life miserable for the newly wed ---why marry at all? sincere and witty answers expected.

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Asked by sumita bhadrachaudhari, 08 Nov '09 11:50 am
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All are our making. No man is totally acceptable or totally reject able.The daughter in law will rule the home if she think and conduct it as her home and shower love to all, mother in law,sisters in law , father in law, brothers in law and other members as her own mother,father etc.I , as a daughter in law is in full command in my house hold for all these 10 years for I do not differentiate my mother and mother in law. Of course the in laws should give every consideration to the daughter in law during the first couple of months.
Answered by Josna, 09 Nov '09 11:58 am

 
  
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Leaving aside the witty part I would like to delve on realities...
Yes...the very thought and apprehension of what would be the acceptance or rejection of a newly wed bride in a totally new environment...must be something which each woman would fear.
Women in metros with parents living in the same city or nuptials where both partners have interacted with each other over a period of time and understood what kind of psychology to expect in the grooms household...may be an easier proposition. but think about those who married off far away...in a different city...different country...with a man they have never met earlier...hardly know about....it would give the bravest of women the creeps. A girl who is the apple of the eye in her family, is expected to know all in a new household with the mother/sister-in-law / laws hell bent on finding faults...whew...difficult situation.
But thats the social norm. one is expected to marry and start a new family after a certain age...and maids are st ...more
Answered by prasoon, 09 Nov '09 02:51 pm

 
  
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Some people sale milk and drink liquor while some others sale liquor to drink milk --i got married as i want to sale milk and drink liqour as it may harm me but not the society while there are people who are in place of marriage , prefer to live togethr. they are selling liquor to drink milk therby enjoying the sexual benefits of marriages but aschewing the resposibilities society at large
Answered by HARIJIBAN BANERJEE, 09 Nov '09 11:16 am

 
  
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Generation gap creates some problems even in the educated & qualified families also,
you or other young ones would understand this phenomenon as natural one only after at the age of 50.
life has all the charms why ?
it is only due to the proper balance of happiness & sadness.
so, sadness is also compulsory in a good life to get the enjoyment of happiness.
Answered by sanjeev bansal, 09 Nov '09 09:02 pm

 
  
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Marriage is one of most important part of our four "aashrams" ,(Bharamcharya , Grahast , Vaanprasth and Sanyaas.).The mentioned song in the question is far from realities in most of the households.This type of problems may occur when the spouses are having different socio-economic backgrounds.have never seen such happenings at least with most the families around us.Have seen my family very closely , both my mother and my wife are complementary to each other.and in fact both form a side to grill me (aakhir nalayak son aur pati jo hoon).Some people who were grilled by their in-laws may some times behave in this way but this is not a general rule.
Marriage hold an important place in Hindu Philosophy .It performs as an important religious ritual.Marriage is an institution itself.Its purpose is extremely sacred and glorious.With this ritual man can full fill all his desired responsibilities.Following the religion,having Son ,physical satisfaction are the primary goals are envisaged by "Hi ...more
Answered by KARTIKAY SHARMA, 09 Nov '09 06:32 pm

 
  
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The song is abt the ups and downs in a married life...saas (MIL) may give gaalis but u wud still have a devar (BIL) to appease you when there is a friction..... and the vice versa is also possible. Just as we cannot please everyone everytime....in our own parents home....same is true in a sasural also. Only in parents home....we are more tolerant but the same issues get blown out of proportion in sasural.
in indian scenario, we have been bombarded with heavy dose of saas bahu stereotypic serials and other stories that do not change the perception that inlaws are outlaws. Even as a child, a girl is admonished.by her parents 'wait till u go to ur sasural..then u will know"... ,we enter the marriage with the fear of inlaws and a negative mindset that we do not make any real attempt to know them.
This doesnt mean we should not marry....marriage is not abt saas and dewar....it is abt having someone to belong to, share ur dreams, walk by your side all your life......therefore we ...more
Answered by sumitha, 09 Nov '09 06:13 pm

 
  
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We Indians are fatalists . We do strongly believe in our fate and the parents from the childhood days feed the girls that Fair or dark ; Short or tall ; Handsome or ugly , the girl has to agree to the choice of the parents and plunge into the marriage . And funny thing is girls do and they have no choice . Mother of the boy thinks that the boy will be stolen away from her after all what she has done to him . So she is bent on destroying the self confidence and peace of the daughter in law . The story repeats in every house hold in India . Few are lucky to get away by love if they are fortunate . Others are destined anyway . That is why it is always said that throught a girls life she undergoes untold miseries . Sad but true . Unfortunately one can not be witty in seeing this story repeated over many many girls .
Answered by RAMASWAMY VENKATESH, 09 Nov '09 05:19 pm

 
  
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Your question is apt for olden days of joint families. Now a days new couples are flying away to US or UK or some where immediately after marriage. However every one has to conduct themselves in a new marriage boys side as well as girls side for the success of marriage.
Answered by Chinna, 09 Nov '09 02:35 pm

 
  
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Why all of us always discussing about our inlaws only[or wouldbe inlaws]. :) ...why we not think about ourselves ,about the changes which going to happen in our life,the responsibilities we are taking,the challenges we are facing,the problems we are exchanging,...Marriage is not only a custom,happiness or duty of our parents/elders -it is also a high responsibility of us to connect two families having different views,beliefs,customs and traditions with a little adjustments and understandings here and there and maintaining that relations as pure,sincere and fresh as it was in the first stage of a marriage proposal..
Answered by magi, 09 Nov '09 02:30 pm

 
  
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Sadee karne se pehle hum plan karlewe,sadeewa huee kee naheen,pia ko leke dusre jagah udjawe,saas saur,dewar kabhie ghar na awe ,ee sochke sadee kartaee to eee to haweee.
Answered by ashok paricha, 09 Nov '09 11:20 am

 
  
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