I will straightaway come to the question, "What should be his reaction & decision?". It is such a situtation in which what has been done cannot be undone. The daughter cannot retrace her steps to bring back her father's lost respect. How should he react now? He should not blame anyone but himself. He has failed at some time to see the writing on the wall. Coming events alwaya cast their shadows before. Now it is too late to cry over the spilt milk. All that is left to do is to reconcile with the sitution and try to save his face as best as he can.

A very sensitive question. We can only think, imagine, write or talk about it... but only the Father who bears such blow would know how it bleeds.

Reaction would be something on the lines of betrayal. Breach of trust and tattered family honor by own blood! As the Q says he is famed so he is not 'allowed' to react as a simple, common man. His every emotion will surely be tinted by media and blown out of proportions if he react like a 'normal' daddy. Can anyone imagine the plight of holding one's natural emotions at such testing times? He would react as composed 'Please leave us alone, its our family matter' to the world, raging with thousand emotions inside. He would try to present his side of story which none would either believe or be interested in because the Daughter has already painted him devil. He may give his reasons why he rejected the Boy but nothing matters now as damages are irreversible. Yet I feel he should voice his take as anyway Daughter has taken things past the hom ...more

I'd put the man through the testing procedure for males & my daughter through a standard testing procedure for females. The same sort of testing we ALWAYS do for prospective brides & grooms. I'll deliberately put the boy through lots of pressure & see competently he handles it. And I'll do the same for the girl & see how good she runs the household.

If the boy passes & also the girl- and men's test is TOUGH, and also the daughter, I'll get them married & protect them the same way Mao Zedong protected Kim Il Sung when the UN, SEATO & NATO bandits attacked....

I'll lose respect??? How so???

Unless the father is not street smart, ANYONE can wriggle out of such a situation. If I am famous, and have SOCIAL gratification (fame) & respect- chances are I have lots of money. I'll just do a PDS project or 2 and advertise it publically. And for diplomacy's sake, I'll help the community leader's son get a medical seat- usually 10-15 lakhs. Maximum 30.

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I do not empathize with the father... No way! See, when will a daughter elope? When she is not close to you and you dont have that kind of a rapport with her and you dont respect her wishes?! She did what she wanted to, since she felt it right that way and she knows that she wil be responsible for whatever decision she has taken...

A duty of a father is not just to earn money.. It is to take care of the needs and wants fo the family... He needs to explain to her and if in case she does nto agree, he should clearly tell her that he abides by her decision and let her get married to her 'dream-boy'... You cannot boss around anybody in fact! You have to accept it with a certain level of maturity...

If the father feels insulted, fine.... He has to analyze his mistakes and if his ego and pride does not let him do, it is his problem....

Anyways, I would not like to comment more as I am unaware of HOW EXACTLY was the relation and the situation... I would still feel she is correct!

Firstly, do we know for a fact that the private persona of the father is same as his public one?Yes the father may be a well respected man of stature in society but at the same time he can also be an autocratic despot at home. If this is true, what course does the daughter have but to elope?

IF the father is as much of a gentleman in private as he is in public and his objection to the alliance is for genuine reasons like his daughter is too young or the groom is not financially well settled enough to keep his daughter in the kind of comforts she is used to but the daughter thinks its just objections for the sake of it she is being very foolish. At that age they have no idea of the kind of hardships you have to face to set up a family. Maybe the father being more mature could have tried to explain it better maybe the girl is a spoilt brat who is used to having her own way and does not like being refused anything. In that case she will live and she will learn.

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The fathers greatness was put to test and his true colours have emerged. He was just hollow inside inspite of his good following and respect. Alas it took somone close as his daughter to get him back to reality and be a true person. Let us hope he learns from these experiences and practises what he preaches on screen in real LIFE as well.

YES ITS REALLY HEARTNING TO SEE GIRLS DOING THAT NOW A DAYS.aT LEASE SHE SHOULD HAVE TAKEN THEM IN TO CONFIDENCE .AND MORE OF IT IS THAT BOY HAS ALREADY BEEN CHARGED FOR KIDNAPPING BEFORE.

> Insult, disgrace & bad repo are left to that Father & his family!

Q: How is father responsible and accountable for the acts of his daughter?

> A Father who earned lot of good will, respect, and fame.

Q: Was the good will, respect and fame genuine? OR was it because people wanted their son to marry into the family?

> All of a sudden his Daughter elopes with her boy friend and gets married secretly!
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I had gone through this. On my part I gave her every possible liberty, but I could not understand why she choose a below her standard person for marrying. She accused that we, her parents, forced her to do things not to her likings. But before the secrete marriage, she never uttered that tyoe of acusition. Any way, we have not recognized the marriage, but our daughter still comes to our home as we have said that doors of our home will always remain open sans her so called husband.

Many have compared your question with that of the superstar. In his case, the boy is only a little bit poor, but he is cultured and educated and earn his money the hard way. As the reports go on, she had no freeness in her home. A filmstar is not something to be taken as a role model in society. As such the duo must be saved from some possible criminal act, as the reports show.

If i understand correctly...your q is abt the southern superstar.

It is sheer immature and irresponsible act by the girl. In selfish pursuit of her own happiness...she has robbed her father of what should hve been the most imp. day of his life..all fathers dream of the day they give their daughter's hand away in marriage to a deserving groom.
Now that the unthinkable has been done...the father has to show a brave face to the world though he is shattered inside ...and he will definitely embrace the daughter with no resentment...because a daughter is most cherished and he would wish the best for her...
and the couple will understand this only when they become parents thmselves...