7 years ago, my brother died. His wife is getting remarried, and my mother insists some1 from our family attend the wedding. Moms too emotional to go but wants me to instead. I said no I was never close to her, and there are no kids. Mom is making me feel guilty. Whats the etiquette here?
This isnt an etiquette question. There is no rule requiring that someone from your family attend. If your mother feels a need to go, thats her prerogative. But she cant use a substitute. Remind her that youre still healing, too, and tell her working the guilt angle is unfair.
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That is a good gesture. Your mothers attitude is very good. The brother's wife has the whole life without any kids. She must marry otherwise there will be no brother or her parents to look after her in her old age, when she will be bed ridden, she would need hospitalization or so. You should express your generous attitude and see that she leads her further life happily. You encourage her; give her every possible moral support and what else she expects from your family now..... She would have never broken up from your family, had her husband been alive, or even if she had a kid of any gender, she would have not thought of remarriage.
she has reached a state which was before her marriage I have known few father in laws who themselves inspired their widow d/in law for remarriage becoz she had no kids........... I do support your mother and salute her.